I am excited to see the overwhelming amount of support for parents during this season of transition, change, and flat out uncertainty.
Although blind-sighted, many of us have kicked into high gear, doing our best to figure it out! After all, thats what us parents do, right!
Because there are so many great resources out there, I wanted to encourage you to not become overwhelmed, but take it slow. Don't feel like you have to have this all figured out by Monday morning at 6am.
Give yourself grace to plan, prepare, and determine the best course of action for you and your family. Remember, what works for your neighbor, friends, and family, may not be what is best for yours. That's ok.
This may be a marathon, and not a sprint, so don't give into the unintended pressures to act now! Here are 5 things you can do to get a good start.
Pray about it: If it's worth worrying about, surly it's worth praying for. God knew this day would come. Nothing catches Him by surprise. Ask Him for knowledge and wisdom, before turning to social media, family and friends.
Have a family meeting: If this is your first time having a family meeting, or its been a while since your last one, remember the acronym K.I.S.S. (Keep It Short & Simple). Family meetings are a time for you to KISS your family and remind them you are all in this together. When you keep it short and simple, your kids will be thankful, and want to continue having family meetings regularly.
Set clear expectations up front: It's often easier to lower expectations than it is to raise them. You want your home to be a reflection of love, and this involves orderliness.
Implement a daily quiet time: No matter how old or young, everyone can use time to sit quietly. For younger children, this may mean nap time, and for older children it can be working independently. Whatever it is, having a daily quiet time is healthy for everyone.
Give and receive grace: Not only will you need to give your children and spouse grace during this time of change, but you will also need to be gracious towards yourself. Our church has been memorizing 2 Corinthians 12:9, and I believe it's a perfect scripture to stand on in times such as these.
I know, I said I had 5 things, but consider this one a bonus:
6. DO NOT COMPARE! I say this often, but it's a trap. It's designed to trip even the best and most skilled people up. Stay focused on your home, your children, and what your family needs during this time. Do what you feel led to do. If that means Susie Q is going at this with no electronic time for her children, but you need to turn on the TV to get meals prepared, DO YOU!
I want to see families succeed in continuing to build a House of Love. Overwhelmingness sneaks in when we take our focus off of God, and begin to focus on what we can or cannot do in our own strength. Social distancing may have you feeling more alone than ever before, but, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Pray, phone a friend, and proceed with grace.
Understand that this will be a time of trial and error, and openly communicate this to your children as well. You all will be learning how to adjust to a new "norm," but it's ok. You will learn and grow together.
To help you get going , I am including 2 downloads for you to use and share with others as led:
The Teaching Wife
"I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world." ~ John 16:33 CSB