I am a single mother of almost 20-years and have been co-parenting for just as long. Co-parenting is difficult even in the typical environment, so I can imagine it is even more difficult today. When co-parenting, and making decisions regarding the health and wellbeing of our children, it is important to keep your child at the forefront. We have all had our entire world interrupted, and children thrive in stability.
A child needs both parents. Therefore, the assertion that a child is being "exposed unnecessarily" during this time, may be an irrational, and self motivated thought. Ask yourself, "are trips to the grocery store, bank, or gas station necessary?" Does your child accompany you, on these trips? If there is a true concern, I would suggest being more like the "real mother" in the story of King Solomon's decision, and allowing the child to stay with the other parent.
“Cut the baby in half! That way each of you can have part of him.” 26 “Please don’t kill my son,” the baby’s mother screamed. “Your Majesty, I love him very much, but give him to her. Just don’t kill him.” The other woman shouted, “Go ahead and cut him in half. Then neither of us will have the baby.” 27 Solomon said, “Don’t kill the baby.” Then he pointed to the first woman, “She is his real mother. Give the baby to her.” ~ 1 Kings 3: 25-27 (CEV)
Sure, I had concerns with regard to my children's father's ability to care for our child at times, but that fear drove me to do what I should have been doing all along. I pray over my child daily, affirming my faith in the promise and power of God. Parenting is a partnership. When parents do not live under the same roof, we are blessed with the unique opportunity to give one another a break. I want to encourage you to focus on the positive aspects of this dynamic and,
"Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God's." ~ 2 Chronicles 20:15 (NIV)
Guest post written by DeShawna Manley